Monday, September 21, 2015

How to Appear Confident (even when you don't feel it!)

Happy Monday! I can't believe we're starting another week, time is flying by so fast for me these days! This week represents a big one- I have hugely important event happening for work this morning (prayers appreciated!), I'll be traveling tomorrow, Wednesday is the first day of Fall, and I'm attending the Landmark Music Festival all next weekend. To make things crazier, I'm in the midst of my busy season for work so I have a lot to do to make sure everything is squared away. I love to be organized, it gives me a sense of calmness that I have yet to find another way. Additionally, when I feel like everything is under control in a certain area of my life, I'm able to focus my energy elsewhere. But I'm human, and unfortunately I forget to cross certain t's and dot certain i's. It usually happens at the worst time possible- and the realization of those missteps leads to panic. Thankfully, I have learned a few ways to put my best foot forward and fake confidence on the outside even when I feel like I'm falling apart on the inside. I wanted to share a couple with y'all today!

Take a deep breath and focus. Whether I'm about to give a presentation to colleagues or walk into a meeting with an important customer, re-centering my thoughts is the way to go. Placing all focus into the task at hand- and squashing the temptation to worry about something completely unrelated- helps channel your energy towards rocking your task!

Stand up straight. Posture, specifically poor posture, can totally set the tone for how you are perceived before you even open your mouth. Standing with your feet shoulder's width apart and planted (read: not shifting your weight side-to-side), keeping a micro-bend in your knees so they don't lock, and rolling your shoulders back shows anyone who's watching that you have things under control. Be mindful of your hands and do your best not to fidget!

Smile. Having a bright, confident smile on your face does more than a million reassuring words! Think of something that makes you genuinely happy and it will show. This allows you to appear relaxed and ready to take on what's in front of you!

Wear a power outfit. That statement means different things to different people. To me, a power outfit would consist of clothing that makes me feel comfortable yet look polished. I don't want to be worried about straps sliding down or hemlines riding up! My power outfit is typically a pencil skirt with a loose-fitting sleeved blouse tucked in, and my favorite black heels. Honestly, it could be anything that gives you that extra "oomph" when you need it!

Speak slowly. I don't know about y'all, but when I'm nervous or excited I tend to talk at a rate that's easily 2x that of my normal language. Combating this takes conscious effort but truly helps to come across cool, calm, and collected! I try to intentionally pick my words and make sure that I'm articulating my thoughts in the best way. This keeps me from rushing ahead of myself in my mind and speaking too quickly.

While it doesn't seem like a ton of work, when used properly these tips have the ability to make a huge impact on how others perceive you! Next time you're in a pinch- I hope you remember a few of these and are able to implement them to project a little extra confidence. If you found these helpful, don't forget to pin this article to reference later!

What do you do to appear confident? Have you used any of these tips successfully?


  1. Love this post! I'm actually taking a public speaking class and one of the first things that was mentioned was how talking fast shows how you're not confident and don't care about what you're talking about. I'm defiantly going to give your tips a try!


  2. A smile is definitely what makes you look more approachable and confident. Love all these pointers.
    Mikayla | A Seersucker State of Mind.

  3. Such great tips!
    I always talk a mile a minute when I'm nervous and I really need to work on that.
    Appearing confident is definitely key.

    xoxo, Jenny || Breakfast at Lillys

  4. Great tips. I so need to learn to speak slowly!

  5. Just this summer I started doing "power poses" before any major presentation and it's amazing how much more confident I felt. I watched a TED talk on body language and got the idea to do that from there! I also love to look my best and it definitely is a major confidence booster to have a power outfit on :)

    Jadore l Jadoregrace

  6. Love this! Such great advice!

  7. I start talking really fast when I'm nervous, truly a mark of confidence lacking! Great tips girl!

  8. A power outfit makes all the difference!

  9. A power outfit and slow talking is very important in appearing confident...I need to work on it harder!

    Nicole // Chronicling Home

  10. 1. Praying for you!
    2. This is such an important post. People really need to read this and understand it. Even if you're faking your confidence for the time being, eventually your fake confidence will turn into real confidence.

    xx. Brittany | Southern Soul

  11. This is so important! Sometimes faking confidence is a must, and usually when I fake it, it turns into a real confidence! I think talking slow is one of my biggest things to work on!

    xo Ashley

  12. I think it's so important to appear confident, no matter what. It eventually becomes real!

    The Fashionista's Diary

  13. These are awesome tips! Seriously, this is super important as well. For me, power outfits and honestly, the whole "fake it till you make it" thing..b's' really works!

    Courtney//As We Stumble Along

  14. These are all such great tips! I 100% believe in "faking it til you make it"!

  15. If I'm in a great outfit, I feel like I can conquer the world! I love these tips, sometimes you just gotta fake it a little bit!

    xo, Alicia | Alicia Tenise

  16. I agree 100%! These tips are AMAZING! A power outfit is the biggest one for me :)

    XX, SS || A Little Seersucker Sass

  17. I've been super down lately + as a result, so has my confidence...but all I need to do is dress to impress and I suddenly feel like a million bucks. Firm believer in the "power outfit!" x Nicole |

  18. Loved this! I'm a firm believer in the power outfit. When I look my best I feel my best!

    Pick Your Beau

  19. I love these tips! I'm generally confident, but not with public speaking. These tips are amazing.


  20. You always share the best tips - a power outfit is a must and always does the trick!


  21. Great tips! Taking a few deep breaths always works for me.

    Diary of a Debutante

  22. I couldn't agree more with all of your tips. The best way to get confidence is to go out and do things that seem a little daunting, and sometimes faking confidence is how you can go out and do those things!! You're right that the right outfit can definitely make you feel more confidence too!

  23. That power outfit tip is 100% my go-to. I have been trying to invest in pieces that make me feel strong and confident. I've hopefully got PhD and job interviews coming up, so I really want to up my game. First on my list is a pair of power heels. What a great post!

  24. Power outfits and smiles are always my go-to's! When you look good, you feel good!
    xx, Mikkaela
    The Southwestern Prepster

  25. Yes! These tips are so helpful! Especially pausing and taking a deep breath.

  26. A power outfit is so important, because when I look good I feel even better!

    xoxo Lex // LexMeetsWorld

  27. Love this! Power outfits are KEY!


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